If there is one temptation, one addiction that has run rampant in the Christian community, it’s pornography. It’s a tragic trap most men fall into, and it’s tearing us apart. I felt led to write this post since its a huge problem most everyone faces. I’ll show you, not only the obvious problems, but what the Lord sees as well.
Before I go on, I want to note that this post is a little more on the mature side than the others. So younger readers might want to pass on.
So, first I want to talk about the sin of pornography and lust itself. It began in Eden, and as we all know, Adam and Eve were naked. Before the fall, we were innocent, and so we never looked at each other as a thing to use, but as a beautiful creation. A child of God. Nudity wasn’t seen as a means of pleasure. It reflected God’s glory. But as soon as the fall, it no longer reflected God’s glory, and so it was seen as shameful. The sin here is that nudity became a source of pleasure. A selfish fulfilment of the flesh that cares for only itself. We began to lust, and that’s when the beauty that God created for His glory became corrupted.
And now we get to the issue of pornography, thousands of years after the fall. Porn is meant to satisfy your lusts and fleshly desires, and it rarely, if ever puts women in the place God intended for them. It turns them into things, tools we use to satisfy ourselves. Instead of looking at a woman as a human being, with feelings, dreams, thoughts, and emotions, they become an image on a screen that’s nothing more than an object to use for our own pleasure.
Which brings me to the first part of the post’s title: Fathers. As a teenager turning eighteen in the beginning of October, I know the time for marriage is close. Not to say I will definitely get married in the next year or so, but it’s possible. And that led me to think of my future children, and what lives I would want for them.
There’s a small joke my mom and I thought of, since I probably won’t be going to university, nor do I even know for certain what I’m going to do (except of course writing), people can push you. When people push the subject I say, “Well, I’m thinking of becoming a stripper!” No, I’m not going to become a stripper, but the truth is there are people who do take off their clothes for other’s entertainment. And I think, “What if my son wants to be a stripper?” or, “What if my daughter decides to become a porn star?” These questions fill me with fear, because living in a world that’s getting more focused on sex each day, I’m afraid that they’ll decide to take a job that requires them to be used sexually.
Though I’m not yet a father, I know there was never a father who wished their daughter would grow to become a porn star.
When I have children, I’ll do everything I can to protect them. I’ll teach them the ways of the Lord, fill them with the Gospel, love them unconditionally, treasure them, esteem them, but I know one day I’ll have to let them go out into the world. Even though I don’t have a daughter, I’m afraid she’ll get hurt by some guy who abuses her, and only loves her because of what she can give him.
Guys, I want you to realize this. Every girl, every woman who reveals herself to you, is some father’s little girl. They are God’s little girls. And I know as I would want my children safe, I know God wants His children to be safe in His arms.
Guys, I know you want to feel as though you’re worth something, to feel loved, but if you use a person to make you feel that way, you’re using someone’s daughter, or for women, someone’s son. People can never give you worth, only Christ can, and if you try to find worth in a person, you’ll end up hurting her/him, and God. We all fear rejection, more than anything in this life, and it can lead us to do things that hurt others. That’s the truth.
It’s time we love like the Christ of the Bible loved. Learn from the girls who have gone through the Hell of pornography. Learn from those who have suffered from trafficking and sex slavery. Sex doesn’t save you! It’s hurts, not only yourself, but others as well. If only we can learn to give instead of take.
There’s a song from the Christian metal band, Emery, called a Sin To Hold On To, and it’s about avoiding the temptation of fornication. The chorus goes, “If we could be the ones to hold on (to stay strong), then maybe we can make a difference in somebody’s life.”
So next time you stare at the mouse sitting on that porn site link, remember that these are God’s children. These are some father’s daughters, and lets look away. A relationship between man and woman is a precious gift God has given us, let’s not abuse it.
Lets pray that men, and women, will stop using each other for their own fulfilment, and let’s learn to give instead of take. “Lord, we pray that you would come and fill us with an anguish and a love for those around us. Lord, help us to love the way you did. Help us to treat those the same way you treated them. Give us life to give back to others. Give us more of you, in Jesus name, Amen.”
Here’s a video from Christian speaker Levi the Poet about the dangers of pornography: Levi the Poet, Pretty in Pornography. Warning: it’s only for mature audiences.